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Stopping chemotherapy

My mother just turned 60 and has been fighting stage 4 Lung cancer since almost 4 years. She was on Chemotherapy for 2 years then moved to immunotherapy for 6 months but her cancer got worse after that so they moved her back to chemotherapy and this time the dosage was really high and painful. After going though all that continuously she has lost her will to fight and wants to stop the pain altogether. He Cancer is still exactly the same as it was when it was diagnosed and she just got weaker and weaker. She can’t walk more than 10-15 steps and needs oxygen regularly. She’s not able to do any thing on her own and now her lungs are filled with water. She wants to completely stop chemotherapy and I just don’t know what to do or expect any more.

  1. I am so sorry to hear your Mom is having such a difficult time. Is she being treated for the liquid in her lungs? May I ask if she sought a second opinion at a Comprehensive Cancer Center (as opposed to a local regional hospital) and do you know if she had biomarker/mutation testing and if so, what the results were? Please feel free to share more, we are here to support each other. Thinking of you, Alisa, Team

    1. I agree with Alisa. There are still ways to try. Seeking the Second Opinion is very important, and so is biomarker testing. Even if your mother had biomarker testing when she just had lung cancer, she may have new biomarkers and these two years, there are different medications for different biomarkers coming out. You have to advocate for your mother, find all the treatments you can. Christine Team

      1. Actually my mother is diagnosed to have advance carcinoma of lungs which has poor prognosis. Apparently only 30% of the lungs are working. She is currently on around 7-10 litres of oxygen. She is also getting treatment for pneumonia and fluid in the lungs. The doctors have now advised to completely stop the chemotherapy as she is in no condition to take it and go for some alternative therapy. They say it’s stage 4 cancer. So just wanted to know if there’s actually any alternative therapy that we can do or what can be done best to at least make her life comfortable as much as we can.

        1. I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. Have you looked into palliative care, they can help with pain control and other areas to keep your mom as comfortable as possible. I'm attaching a few links that explain palliative care in more detail. Thinking of you and your Mom ... we are here for you both. ~ Alisa

        2. This is so heartbreaking, and I know your pain. Your situation sounds similar to my mother's. When the body becomes weak it's hard to consider another opinion or other options. Please continue to stay by her corner, though don't give up on the possibility of another source of treatment. Though her current doctors deem it too late the other options my fellow moderators mentioned may assist as well. Wishing you both the very best and please stay in touch on how things are progressing.

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