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Live The Moment Or Do You Plan?

I’ve been asked if I live the moment or do I plan. Well, that’s kind of a hard question to answer because I actually do both, but for the most part, I live the moment. Maybe for some they plan and after a lung cancer diagnosis they still plan, and others live the moment and now living with lung cancer they are really living the moment.

Don't dwell on the past

I have found myself living the moment for the most part. I don’t dwell on the past anymore because the past is gone and there’s nothing I can do about my diagnosis. I had to learn to let go of the past and not worry about the future. Worrying about the future isn’t any better, we need to stop waiting for the future. So, we need to live in the present moment and enjoy every bit of it.

"Live your life consciously and be aware that each moment you breathe is a gift." – Oprah Winfrey

Yes, being diagnosed with a terminal illness is scary and our future is uncertain, but we cannot mourn the past nor worry about the future. We must live in our present lives wisely and sincerely. Our lives are available only in the present moment and if you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your lives deeply. It isn’t difficult to live the moment, you just have to remember to do it.

Learning to enjoy the present more

I have learned living with lung cancer that anxiety, stress, worry, tension, and feeling uneased is a form of fear that is caused by thinking too much about the future and not enough about the present. Bitterness, regret, sadness, guilt, resentment, and grieving is a forms of non-forgiveness.  That’s caused by thinking a lot about the past and not enough about the present moment. Many of us at one time in our lives regretted not doing something and it probably has bothered us. So why don’t you just do it? Appreciate the present moment, take every second of your life, and enjoy it.

Yes, I do plan but I plan for the most part vacations, a wedding, a baby, or a bridal shower. I plan a birthday party for my granddaughter, or we plan a birthday dinner party. Being a Mary Kay Consultant I plan parties, one on one facials, and makeup. I plan my weekly meetings and what I’m going to do each week. Some do need to plan their lives out because they’re in control of getting what they want out of life and that can make their vision of life become real. So, for some planning is picturing the goals that can help motivate them and keeps them focused and organized.

Remember you are only here now

Ever since my diagnosis my husband and I pretty much live the moment and plan for things that need to be planned. We both had to learn how to live in the “now.” We had to stop worrying about the past because the past came and went and stop worrying about the future because the future isn’t here yet. So, we live and enjoy the moment. I leave you with this, the only time you will ever grow, heal, learn, see, feel, or express is this moment. Because this is the only moment any of us will ever get. Remember you are only here now; you are alive at this moment.

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